My Path to This Work

​The name "Loving Aliveness" came from paying attention to what actually makes me feel alive. Not just the high-energy moments, the dancing and connection, but the quieter ones too: listening closely, being present, extending compassion to myself when I didn't have it figured out. Aliveness isn't just intensity. It's also care.

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My path to somatic sex education has been shaped by my own relationship with intimacy: a mix of deep longing and real insecurity. That tension has been my teacher. It's taught me to move at the speed of trust, to stay curious, and to meet people where they actually are.

I believe pleasure and connection are essential, and that they're often blocked by old wounds, cultural messages, systemic harm, and simple disconnection from our bodies. My own healing work has given me sensitivity to these barriers and a commitment to creating space where people can explore without pressure or shame.

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Some history:

In my younger years, I struggled with self-doubt, but that struggle fed a longing for growth and expansion through nature, travel, and spirituality that's never left me.

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In my mid-20s, I entered a partnership that became a 20-year marriage. That relationship taught me more about empathy, deep listening, and the complexity of long-term intimacy than anything else.

During my marriage, I began studying sexuality, ethical non-monogamy, and trauma healing. The ideas lit me up, but I was learning mostly in my head.

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After my divorce, I started learning through actual practice in my body. Through workshops, personal exploration, and a lot of vulnerability, I've been discovering my sexuality and my identity in polyamory. I've faced fears, made mistakes, built new kinds of connection. This period of expansion is still ongoing and informs everything I bring to this work.

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Now I'm here to offer some of what I've learned and to hold space for others on a path of healing and growth. Not as someone who has it figured out, but as someone who knows what it's like to want more aliveness and not know how to find it.

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Training & Background

Education: I have a BA in Transpersonal Psychology and a Graduate Certificate in Integral Theory. These shape how I understand the relationship between body, psyche, and spirit.

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Coaching: I've been a Certified Integral Master Coach™ for well over a decade. That training still informs how I listen and ask questions.

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Somatic Training: My somatic background includes study in Somatic Experiencing™, a body-based approach to trauma resolution, as well as years of experience in dance, movement, and therapeutic bodywork. The body has always been how I learn best.

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Communication: I trained in Open Hearted Listening and other emotionally attuned approaches. Listening well is half the work.

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Consent: My consent training comes from Betty Martin and the School of Consent, including the Wheel of Consent framework and the Like a Pro training. This is a key foundation for everything I do.

 

Somatic Sex Education: I became a certified Somatic Sex Educator in November 2024, trained through the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education. This is now at the center of my practice.